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Can you please stop talking? I’m trying to sleep
Drew has gotten scary good reading the comments with terrible grammar with complete fluidity.
fellas, is it controversial to have a healthy relationship
I have been married for 6 years and have only seen him in person twice and that was when we both had to shit and the same time and he opened the door on me. Never been happier to have our own hobbies and space ❤️ neither of us have ever looked at our kids. I only know he still lives with me because he does the dishes and I’ll sweep to let him know I still live there.
Drew we are one year into me legally tricking you into being my boyfriend and you haven’t done the dishes ONCE
This is like when you tell your parents a joke and they turn it into a lecture, except instead of your parents it’s the entire internet
I’ve deleted twitter, tik tok and Instagram and I’m gonna be honest, it has improved my mental health a ton, cutting out all the useless noise of people just being furious over nothing has made me much happier
This video came up on such a good time lol. I was thinking about this yesterday. How everyone ALWAYS wants to fight everyone and disagree with everyone online. It makes reading any comment section on anything very frustrating, and like you said in the video, the only solution I can think of is actually spending less time online. I intend on doing so, because I believe it’s gotten to a point where it’s really just causing anxiety and frustration on my end. so….
One time I saw Amanda and her husband eat square food. She didn’t say it, but I could tell from her eyes that she had been crying and was only eating squares because it was the only way to get her husband to spend time with her. Watching Captain Planet loudly on repeat in the living room just wasn’t working like it used to. This is my fanfiction. Tags: Lemon, OOC, Crossover with Inuyasha, rated G
I’m so glad you did a video on this lol I was just showing my husband a TikTok the other day where a couple has 3 rescue dogs and the video was something like “when the dogs go down it’s US time” and they’re in separate rooms gaming but gaming with each other and omg the comment section was BRUTAL! Especially with people that have kids just attacking them for having the nerve to act like having 3 dogs is also work. They didn’t say it was just like having kids or anything but that was their perception of the video. The rest were comments attacking their marriage, ragging on gamers in general…it was INSANE! How incredibly miserable does one have to be to take something so unimportant and wholesome or a joke video and just go off?! It was just crazy lol I could not believe some of the things people were saying and even going as far as to say that they were abusing their dogs because the doors to their rooms appeared to be closed…when the dogs were in their crates lol JFC. When someone is absolutely miserable with their life, they’ll let you know lol
Thank you for making this video! Last week I got frustrated at all the overly aggressive and negative comments and turned off several app notifications. I used to enjoy talking to people online but it seems you need to be extremely selective about every group you interact with now 😵💫
Me: thinking I’m gonna see another silly drew gooden video
Drew: actually giving legitimately good relationship advice
Dude, thank you for this video. The last ten minutes or so especially are exactly what I’ve been thinking about so often recently, word for word.
It’s so obvious that all these social media platforms are just trying to make you angry in order to make you engage more, and I’m so sick of it. Even if I’m fully aware of it, I’m spending hours every day scrolling through instagram, arguing with people, and I only end up feeling frustrated and sad.
And again, as you said, it sucks because there is so much interesting stuff and cool people on the internet too. I don’t want to have to stop using it, and lose all contact with pretty much everyone I’ve ever known. I feel like smaller social media networks can be better to an extent, like heavily moderated Reddit communities or Discord servers, but so often this type of toxic behavior leaks into those as well. I really wish there was a better solution, but I have no idea what that would be. Again though, thank you so much for this video. I really wish your rant at the end would spread all over social media.
“I don’t care if something good happened to you, it should have happened to me instead” perfectly sums up TikTok.
I’m worried for all the kids growing up on TikTok. Constantly seeing extreme hate comments is either gonna make them cruel or extremely anxious. I can’t imagine being 14 and navigating this mess
“Your relationship doesn’t need to make sense to anyone, except you and your partner. It’s a relationship, not a community project”
I wished you would’ve talked about the lady who said she likes to drink coffee with her husband in the morning… Everyone was in an uproar. People were talking about their chronic illness and how she shouldn’t post cause THEY are sick, that the lady is lazy and doesn’t have a job, etc.
I’m so glad this isn’t just me. 🗿 there’s also been a huge increase (for me at least) I’m homophobic posts and comments. Some of the homophobia is on just.. normal posts too. As a gay woman, constantly seeing hatred towards me as a person is so mentally draining. I’ve slowly just stopped using Instagram all together lol
I genuinely love people who say being a househusband for a woman is gay. Not because I agree with them, but because we’ve gone from “Fella’s, is holding hands with another dude gay?” to “Fella’s, are wearing jeans gay?” to the glorious “Fella’s, is having a relationship with a woman gay?”
What concerns me is how often people will create a premise in their head, write a whole fanfic backstory, and the argue about it when none of the things they talk about are present. I’ve had to call out people so many times for this, when they’d hear a story or see a video out of context and make their entire backstory as to what they believe happened instead of learning what anything was even about. It’s wild.
The ONLY things that are important in a relationship are communucation, consent, the same age range and being human. If they’re happy and not hurting themselves and their partner(s) they’re doing it right
I’ve been with my husband for 20 years and we love having hobbies the other doesn’t. If we spent ALL time together we’d never have anything to talk about. It’s also nice to feel like an individual and not having to be coupled.
I have been yelling at my phone a lot lately lol, it’s nice to know i’m not alone in seeing this harmful rise in toxicity online.
The amount of people who get super pissy because you as an individual has decided to not have children is absolutely insane, and they’re always so vile about it.
Drew: Amanda does more cleaning and dishes, but that’s because I cook and do grocery shopping!
Also Drew: Thanks to Factor and Hello Fresh, I never have to cook or go grocery shopping!
saw a girl crying bc she was going to miss a taylor swift concert bc she needed surgery and how she was tired of her illness taking things away from her. people were laughing at her in the comments and asking why she would even think ab going to a taylor swift concert over her surgery.. even though she wasn’t choosing it. she explained why she was sad yet no one had any sort of empathy or want to understand why
I want to say, I really enjoyed seeing Drew so angry and passionate about something it’s really fun to watch😂😂
This is why I’m so fearful to talk about myself online now. The amount of hate I’ve gotten for minor things is so batshit insane. I don’t know how anyone can handle to put themselves out there now
I can’t tell you how many people have told me my fiance must be unhappy or cheating because we don’t have kids. My fiance wants kids even less than I do but somehow it’s always “you’re a bad woman/wife” and I’m not fulfilling my duties. The criticism women get for not having or liking kids is a whole new level of ridiculous. They are so concerned about what we do with our bodies. They genuinely get irate when I tell them we’re not having kids, some people will even ask why we got married and claim we’ll never be happy or a family.
this video is exactly what has been going through my mind for the last three months. i’ve been stuck in a cycle of watching a wholesome video and then scrolling through the comments for 30 minutes just making myself mad.
Doing a chore your partner hates is an expression of love. That’s all.
The part where Drew talked about how having hobbies and time outside of your partner made me so happy. I myself am an introvert while my partner is an extrovert, and while I absolutely love being with him and doing things together, he knows that I need my alone days because that’s where I get my energy. It doesn’t mean I love him less, we just have different needs. He has his own things outside of me, like orchestra and his DND group, and I’m totally fine with that. But one of my coworkers is constantly telling me that our relationship is “toxic” because we don’t spend every single free moment together (as well as accusing me of grooming him because he’s a year younger than me, even though she and her husband are five years apart, but I guess she thinks it’s different because the guy is older)
I feel like people getting hideously angry at other people just for being in a healthy relationship has become so normalized it’s scary as hell. On the daily I see comments of people spewing obscene dialogue and even go as far as making death threats to other people JUST because they’re in a healthy relationship. It’s so weird- it not only makes it uncomfortable for all parties involved, it’s useless and doesn’t benefit anyone.
I feel like people getting hideously angry at other people online just for being in a healthy relationship has become so normalized it’s scary as hell. On the daily I see comments of people spewing obscene dialogue and even go as far as making death threats to other people JUST because they’re in a healthy relationship. It’s so weird- it not only makes it uncomfortable for all parties involved, it’s useless and doesn’t benefit anyone.
(Edit: clarified I was talking specifically about online interactions rather than in person because I’m not sure if I originally clarified that. My apologies.)
being real though, im so, SO happy someone chose to speak up about this because as someone who’s still trying to develop their own identity and opinions, its incredibly difficult to think for myself when it feels like there will always be something wrong about it, and i’ll always be judged no matter what i do. its a lot of pressure, and honestly, that’s why i’ve been trying to stay off instagram and such.
Everyone that judges relationships on the internet literally doesn’t understand that no one relationship is the same and that one 15 second video isn’t someone’s entire life
So freaking glad someone with a large voice finally said something about this. I can’t even read the comments for a good laugh anymore because people are so negative and always so out of pocket crap or people always get offended at the dumbest crap.
This was actually so refreshing and relieving to listen to, the internet lately has been so tiring, and I’m glad Drew gave his take on the whole angry comment section phenomena that’s become so normal
Completely agree with you. I personally deleted all social media several months ago and, unsurprisingly, it made me feel a lot better in many ways. I would encourage anyone who is bothered by all this to read into the problem and consider taking a longterm break.
I was told by someone that if someone was as obsessed with them as my ex was to me, they’d be flattered..this was stated after I told them I had to separate with my partner after he got extremely mad at me for holding hands with someone else in a dream and when I stated I liked a fictional character.
I dated a guy for like 6 months that was so insecure, he needed to spend every moment with me (he had a lot of free time since he didn’t work our entire relationship). I had 0 time to myself after work, if we weren’t hanging out then he’d be texting me constantly and if I didn’t respond for more than an hour he’d have a meltdown. It physically felt like I was suffocating by the end, my anxiety as an adult has never been nearly as crippling as when we were together. It’s so fucking terrifying when you’re forced to be with someone 24/7 the way some of these people believe you need to
I feel like people who nitpick, micromanage, criticize and psychoanalyze everything about your relationship are the ones who have never been in a relationship LOL